Many men have attended GAMMA over the years. The value each man receives is very individual to their lives and the choices they choose to make. Below are just a few quotes from different men on the impact that GAMMA has made in their lives:
"I attended my first meeting in 1983. My partner and I celebrate 30 years on October 28. I credit GAMMA for giving me the courage to follow my heart and to be proud of myself." - Ken
"After keeping my sexuality hidden for most of my adult life, for the first time in GAMMA meetings I was able to talk honestly with other men about my life married to a woman and my attraction to men. Hearing stories from other men was powerful and healing. GAMMA supported me through one of the most difficult periods of my life." - Harry
"So going to GAMMA is like finding a group of brothers, like a gay fraternity of good guys that are there for you. I've made a some very close friends from the group that continue to be a big part of my support system." - Samuel
"Regarding guys like me, who needed GAMMA - there was no where else to go - but wouldn't go because I would never admit to myself or to anyone that I'm gay. Suicide was a better alternative than to admit in a group of gay men that I too am gay. So, I refused to attend the meetings. It took a number of conversations with my spiritual director before I acquiesced. I was assured that this GAMMA group had no agenda; there was no requirement for me to be gay friendly; I wasn't going to be coerced to march in a parade. So, I relented and went.
As far as I know, there are no venues for married-and-gay men that have no "agenda". If there are, they don't do it as well as GAMMA. During my time with GAMMA, it was a long and painful struggle to come to terms with myself on my own terms. I would have walked out if I thought I was being bullied into something I didn't want. I know there are guys out there who feel the same way" - Paul
"As a closeted married professional man GAMMA has always offered me a refuge of safety and brotherly acceptance. It has helped me live my life as I choose and as I need." - Ben
"It's a great support group! It helps me reflect upon a lot of different issues related to being a gay dad." - Alex
"Finding and utilizing the fellowship and collective wisdom of the men attending GAMMA has been one of the most important aspects of my being able to embrace who I am and who I choose to be. The support, love, acceptance, and perspective that I encounter at each and every meeting have bolstered me through good times and bad as I move forward. Each man’s story, their victories and challenges, help me understand my own options and possibilities. The camaraderie among us is only possible through the open and honest sharing of our common issues, fears, hopes, and needs." - Tom
"GAMMA was an essential resource for me early in the process to understand that I was not alone and to learn from others, as well as support them. Now, years later, I still keep up with the Meetup, though no longer attend meetings regularly." - David
"I regret having delayed attending GAMMA. For over a year, I feared being outed in the meeting. Nothing could be further from my experience. Instead of pain, it has bolstered my courage. While not every meeting nor every participant offers great value, over all this has been and still is an indispensable part of my coming into a new and healthier phase of my life. Thanks GAMMA." - Bob
"A great place to share our stories and to learn how others have handled the challenges of being gay and being involved with a straight woman." - Jose
"I only went to a few meetings, because my wife felt very threatened by my going. But meeting men in similar positions was very helpful in enabling me to determine that I and she had to find our own path." - Sandy
"I found GAMMA to be a safe, comfortable place to interact with other men who know what I know and feel what I feel." - Christopher
"In GAMMA I found community and connection with guys like me." - Miguel
"GAMMA was profoundly helpful in my coming out process. In addition, I have met some lifelong friends through GAMMA." - Darrell
"GAMMA was honest talk with those who are or have been where I am -- experiencing being not alone in this journey" - Tom
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